Can you share a lesson that you learned later in life and how it has impacted your current lifestyle, mentality, or attitude?

Last Updated: 01.07.2025 06:21

Can you share a lesson that you learned later in life and how it has impacted your current lifestyle, mentality, or attitude?

It’s very settling.

-Smita Mishra

It drained me, messed with my peace, and cluttered my mind with unnecessary stress.

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I lost a lot of my time to help, keeping my needs aside & the favour was never returned because most people took my time for granted & I also hesitated to ask for help

No meant she is being rebellious.

Whether it was a friend asking for a favor, an invitation I didn’t feel like accepting, or even a stranger requesting my time, I hesitated to say no

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I always felt obligated to be polite, to be accommodating, to be the “nice” person because the dictionary of ‘good girl’ means they should be accommodating according to the society.

I am thankful to my profession & how I started from scratch that I was able to become so blunt & straight forward.

It has been an easy life.

Why do men always bring up “the draft” (the last military draft was in 1972) when abortion rights are being discussed? - are they advocating that women ought to owe our bodies to the government? Should anyone owe their body to the state?

But my mind wouldn’t let go of it.

Many people especially girls will be able to connect with this answer.

I would spend hours, sometimes days, replaying the decision in my head, regretting my response, wishing I had been honest.

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I have ruined my sleep & rest hours with nonsense calls from nonsense people. No matter what the time, I have picked up their calls & listened to their rant for hours. I could not be blunt saying, ‘no am not interested in talking’

This is how I paid for not being able to say NO.

I lost a lot of money trying to fit in. I don’t like expensive English meals at fancy restaurants. But my friends did. I couldn’t say No thinking I would be judged. But I love ‘Desi food’. I didn’t enjoy the food, & I ended up paying huge split bills so many times

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It’s very refreshing.

No is a complete sentence & it should not be just used for CONSENT for sex.

I couldn’t say No to strangers talking & invading my personal life. It made me uncomfortable but somehow I entertained forcibly. This made me realize that I was an easy target for them. They thought of me as an easy prey. This always ended up hurting me because I knew there should be a boundary set , yet I couldn’t set it as I was just a naive small town girl

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But here’s the hard truth I learned much later in life.

It’s very freeing.

Everytime I said yes when I wanted to say no, I paid the price.

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It’s very freeing.

I used to be the kind of person who found it incredibly hard to say no. I would keep people’s feelings above mine.

I was always that one eager person to help someone in need without realising the consequences it might have. I have helped people from Quora & other places during the time when I had nothing on me. I couldn’t say No when a man manipulated me into giving him a huge amount for his daughters education during Covid. I later got fed up asking him to return. He returned after two years. His wife was a working lady at a good corporate place. He lied to me as he wanted money for his alcohol addiction

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